TIPS ON DECISION MAKING IN PARENTING

TIPS ON DECISION MAKING IN PARENTING

I welcome you to Tales by Olola, a blog where we learn to improve on who we are and what we do, thereby living a life of purpose. I remain your loyal host, Olabusola Olorunnowo. 

Today's discussion is a follow up on "Your child& You". I feel there is no end to tips on parenting, however, am sure you will find these article useful someday.

*** Parents need to share decision making responsibility: your inability to consult or agree with your spouse before taking decisions may be visible to your children and if care is not taken they may soon underestimate your instructions or better still ask you to tell Dad or Mum first.

*** Never chase away your child’s bad friends. Instead nurture them as well. This would further help your children. If you warn your child not to talk to them, there is possibility of your child doing so in your absence.

***You need to always present a unified front before your children. You both ought to have questioned your decisions and also consider what questions the children would pose at you. Then you may need to equally think out possible answers before going to present your conclusion on every issue of discourse.

***Don’t involve your children in your parenting conflicts, else they would respect you less. When you both have to disagree, please make it done in a place where they won’t hear your voices. The act of yelling and blaming each other in their presence would only promote unruly children. These may affect how they treat their female or male friends.

*** Respect your spouse and treat your spouse with respect as your negative or disrespectful reaction to your partner might be unconsciously recorded in the mind of your toddlers. Try not to underestimate each other before your children.

***Ensure you consider your spouse position in what you indulge your children in.

***Communicate your decision to your children by making them understand. Enforcing your decisions on them would only build rebels.

** *Always explain the reason for each act of disciplinary action to them so it does not seem like an unjust treatment. Try not to discipline your child out of anger else you might overreact.

*** Be physically, emotionally, spiritually and mentally involved in your children's educational development. Some parents are only financially involved.

*** Allow your children to make some decisions then guide them by telling them the dangers of their decisions which makes them feel important that they can contribute.

*** Coach your child that failure and success are both part of life.

*** Teach your child the sense of time and time management. A waste of time is a waste of life.

***  Equip your child with basic security tips.


*** Teach your child how to save and how to give. Also teach never to mock the poor and needy.

******* Teach your child how to pray. So when they need urgent help they don't just cry, rather they can call for divine help. Encourage them to read the Bible, for it is a guide to life.


Indeed as a parent, you are first of all a teacher. So inculcate in your child good morals and values and in future you won't regret it.

Once again thank you for your time.