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The act of listening entails some elements such as focus and it basically requires making a conscious effort to mentally, emotionally and physically align with the subject and object of discussion. This involves being sensitive to the verbal and non-verbal messages and choice of words. Listening   is the ability to accurately receive and interpret messages to ensure an  accurate  communication process. Without the ability to   listen   effectively, messages are easily misunderstood. 5 PEOPLE WE DO NOT LISTEN TO 1) Our Heart or Inner Mind 2) Our Spouse 3) Our Children 4) Our Elders 5) God

“7 Effective Ways to Make Others Feel Important I decided to engage in a study on the skill of listening and it effect on relationship, leadership and life as a whole and one  peculiar  thing I discovered is that this skill is very essential in life. In  understudying  Roy T.Bennett, I found out that he is a researcher, prolific writer, and a great resource personality who  cherishes wise words. Here are his nuggets:   7 Ways to Make Others Feel Important  7 Effective Ways to Make Others Feel Important   1. Use their name. 2. Express sincere gratitude. 3. Do more listening than talking. 4. Talk more about them than about you. 5. Be authentically interested. 6. Be sincere in your praise. 7. Show you care.”   ―   Roy T. Bennett ,   The Light in the Heart My Review On How To Make People Feel Important: 1 . U se their name. People do not appreciate, you not knowing their names, talk more of calling them the wrong names. There is no harm in asking for the pers

                       7 WAYS TO DEAL WITH A  STUBBORN  CHILD It is not out of place to have one or two strong willed child among your children or in your classroom. As Parents and Teachers, this can be very frustrating. Especially, when it seem this child have a dogged determination to destroy your efforts. Yes! I understand how draining it can be, but here are a few tips that can help you.            1)      BE MORE PATIENT Children always have a reason for their actions, unfortunately their good reasons often turn out with bad results. In dealing with a stubborn or strong willed child, you need a lot of patience in other not to act irrational in the face of the slightest provocation. Patience will help you to think through the situation by analyzing it before you take your decision. Despite the provocation, please exercise a little more patience. 2)      LISTEN MORE “Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to r

“It is unfortunate that when you want to make some people feel like human beings, they begin to take you as an animal.” ―  Michael Bassey Johnson . Michael Bassey Johnson is a Nigerian author, poet and researcher, who takes interest in nature, philosophy, human beings, science and in contemporary issues. Some of his books include: "Master of Maxims" and " The Infinity" and other poetry works. “-We need more love, to supersede hatred, -We need more strength,  to resist our weaknesses,  -We need more inspiration,  to lighten up our innermind.  -We need more learning,  to erase our ignorance,  -We need more wisdom,  to live longer and happier,  -We need more truths, to suppress deceptions,  -We need more health,  to enjoy our wealth,  -We need more peace, to stay in harmony with our brethren  -We need more smiles,  to brighten up our day,  -We need more hero's, and not zero's,  -We need more change of ourselves, to change the lives of others,  -We nee

HOW TO BUILD A PARENT- TEACHER RELATIONSHIP “Three things in human life are important: the first is to be kind; the second is to be kind; and the third is to be kind.” — Henry James D o you know that the best time to say, thank you, to your child's teacher is after the long vacation? Yes, 'summer vacation' as it is fondly called. Parents will appreciate the efforts of teachers each vacation period. You may agree with me that some mothers would have almost had relapse during this period, due to the need to accommodate the restless nature of the preschoolers. C hildren are pleasant to have and beautiful to behold but if not properly engaged, the experience might be unpleasant. All a child want, is to be engaged, it is now left for the child minders, parents or teachers to monitor and guide the child's activities. *(1) One Basic Rule Of Parent- Teacher Relationship Is  APPRECIATION I t baffles me when some parents question the relevance

H istory will always repeat itself, but in more dynamic ways than one. Just as the moon embraced the clouds and as the frogs were setting the pace and rhythm of the nights, I walked slowly down the road. It was not a narrow street but its broad nature had not encountered either the local or state Government’s intervention, hence the different stones that littered these sand filled road would not allow for any other movement but a cat walk. It was barely my usual gait, courtesy my long hours of sitting in the car due to the traffic which I had just escaped. N ow it was quarter past 10 at night and only business night crawlers would beat the dark with sexy and glittering looks that set the night mood for dangerous romance. Yet it was not their route, my street has not being celebrated in recent times for such, so I wondered whose voices penetrated the night at such a time. As I moved closer to the images, I became more interested and curious rather than being scared, my sl

BLOOD EVERYWHERE IN THE POOR MAN'S HOUSE. Iya Kayode the bean cake(akara) seller screamed and dropped the phone. Kayode her only son had just been killed. The boy she gave all her sweat for just died few weeks after getting a bank job in Enugu with promises to repay his mom gone with the winds.A death caused by a needless war. Mama Nonso couldn't even console her neighbor iya Kayode. Two days earlier, Nonso her second child was beheaded in the North. Trying to escape the madness of a war which had just began, Nonso and a few others bundled themselves into a bus and tried to escape from the North. After 5 hours taking several dangerous routes in the middle of the night and about 30 minutes to safety, they were spotted by a group of angry Northern youths who vandalized their vehicle, took all in the bus and beheaded. They didn't even spare the 2 year old daughter of Margaret. The leader of the gang killed both mother and child with the same sword. The leader of tha

In the race of life Men will fail you And men will raise you And trade you for their goals Never take it to heart Never hold life so strong When you hold life like an egg It will hurt your heart when it breaks Yet when it breaks Hold the instance not for long Hold it not to heart Unforgiveness is a plant with great root Never he that hurt you Drive the ship of your life Change your coast not Harbour no more Unforgiveness Like new wine let your breath Breath again the goodness of life. All I plead is that you forgive And forgive and forgive That you may travel light.

                                                  WHAT DO YOU KNOW ABOUT MENINGITIS* Health is wealth is a cliche that is sometimes overlooked. It will shock  you that death strikes our teens and youths for reasons that can be avoided, yet many families are oblivious of these reasons. There are a few diseases that kills faster than HIV/AIDS, and Meningitis is one of them. Medical scholars have it that, it is more deadly when weighed with the most deadly diseases, yet many Nigerians are not cognizant of the causes and symptoms of Meningitis. It is quite appalling, how we handle critical issues in this part of the world, we hide under the cover of prayers rather than seek medical attention. We spiritualize everything without taking precautions, of course the repercussion is high mortality rates. No doubt, prayer is helpful but the roles of good information as well as medical support cannot be shortchanged. The purpose of this article is to sensitise people and raise th

                    HOW TO TEACH YOUR CHILD TO READ It is quite amazing that at age 17 in 1964, John Maxwell took a great interest in reading books on Leadership . So it was not out of place, 5 years later in 1969, when he had his first leadership position.  According to John Maxwell "In 1976, I became convinced that everything rises and falls on leadership". One other peculiar thing was that this young man also aimed at writing a book on “ Leadership-Gold ” once he clocked 60 and as God will have it. He achieved this mile stone goal, at 60 and many others. My point is that leadership is everything and no parent can nurture a child properly without understanding a few tips about the heart of leadership. The beauty of understanding the concept of leadership as parents is that, it empowers your child with leadership traits at their early age. However, the focus of this article is to build a reading culture in your child. You may not be