3 UNHEALTHY REWARD APPROACH FOR CHILDREN
"Reward the effort, not the achievement itself. Progress, not perfection."
Cynthia Crossley, Author at Habyts
An English philosopher and social reformer, Jeremy Bentham introduced the "carrot and stick" approach of motivation in people management. Which places emphasis on balancing how we can influence remarkable behaviour in people, children inclusive through reward and punishment systems. Literally, carrot, in this case, symbolizes the rewards while the stick indicates the punishment.
Most parents and tutors often utilize the "carrot and stick" without knowing it. However, this article focuses on the health implications of some of the reward system or approach we put in place for children.
3 UNHEALTHY REWARDS APPROACH FOR CHILDREN
- Candy Reward
Many of us are guilty of this, I inclusive. We often reward our children when impressed and sometimes our rewards may include ice cream, snacks, sweets, biscuits among other things. You will agree with me that children find this reward very delightful but it poses more threat to their health unknowingly. This pattern among other things might create a lifelong habit for them as they grow into adulthood. In those days, our grand parents and some parents give extra food as rewards, but food as a reward is not also ideal. Food should never be equated with gifts, likewise eating in between meals should not be encouraged. Issues of glutton, obesity, dentition challenges and other health hazards caused by excessive feeding and sugary snacks intake might also creep in.A better approach will be to praise our children: oh yes, words of encouragement goes a long way. Moreso children can be rewarded with materials that aid learning and development.
2. Toys and Gadgets Rewards
Parents sometimes reward children with different unneeded toys and garget and sometimes these rewards could create power struggle in the home. Another reward error in this category is to allow your child to watch television or play games early in the morning or late at night. This would definitely affect the healthy routine: wake up time, school time, etc of such child. In the long run, you are building a wrong legacy for the child, which might be difficult to change later in the years.
3. Children on a playdate
This particular reward approach is highly beneficiary to the parents and guardians as well as the child because of the relieving effects. guardian In as much as this reward approach sound very beautiful and interesting, it can mar or make the growth of the child if the environment or people around your child at the said time, do not share your core values. It is often easier to send children off to play with friends and family during the vacation period and at other times when parents need alone time. However, caution should be applied. Dr Bisaga, says " You need to be on top of your kids and monitor what they 're doing and how they 're doing it" www.parents.com
A situation where you call for a brief meeting: listen to the reasons for their actions, reasons there needs to be an improvement and agree on the rewards and punishment together often create a higher level of confidence in the child. Scott Brown, Author of How to Negotiate with kids, posits that "If you spend time developing a way of working through problems with your kids, future problems will be a lot easier."
"the earliest you can expect a kid to participate in a negotiation process is when they're 3," says Brown
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