HOW FINANCIAL SECRECY CAN DESTROY A HOME

                                                                                                      One Thing That Destroys Homes

One thing I understand destroys home faster than infidelity is financial secrecy. You are not having an affair yet it seem like you are. You have being faithful to her, since you responded “I do” on the altar on that beautiful wedding day, yet she doubts your allegiance to her. So why would you blame your partner for her sarcasm and suspicion.

Yes some women would not fight or shout at you but their sarcastic reaction to your expressions will poke you dearly into your marrows. Who says she is right. None. I am only bothered about how that secrecy about your financial achievement or loss affects your home.

Some men and women receive salary increment, bonuses, Pet-Project benefits and spend the money on the home and other things yet they do not discuss the source of the funds with their spouses. It will amaze you that, the day your spouse stop enjoying that luxury she would wonder if there is a diversion of the funds. In the same vein some men’s businesses have almost crashed and they are struggling to sustain the family’s budget and expenses without discussing with their spouses. 

Please note that, the attempt to be, "Mr or Mrs all knowing", “Mr. Right”, “Mr. Fix it” and “Mr. Provider” will only give such a man depression, high blood pressure and other related illnesses. Kindly, let your spouse know your salary or bonuses has being slashed, so she can learn how to manage the available resources. The attempt at going through the storm alone would only get you into more troubles, if care is not taken. Some people are good at saying,  “don’t worry about me, I am fine” or “I will find a way around it”. They forget there is a limit to what individual energy and mind can ensure.

The case of “Jumping the broom” a 2011 American Romantic Comedy is a good study. In this movie, a couple was planning their only daughter’s wedding and the wife, like some Nigerian mothers, had extravagantly planned an exclusively classy wedding. Meanwhile, her husband took pleasure in being away on business trip to avoid her tantrums and to also liaise with his secretary on how to proffer solutions to an eminent financial shipwreck that the family was facing. 

He made no mention of his fears to her, hence she kept dwelling on an assumption that he was having an affair with his secretary and this was on for some years until the wedding eve, when he busted out that, “We are broke and left with only this house”.  

Another case is that of a young woman who prostitutes herself to fend for her family. Her jobless husband and children are aware she works on shift. They had no incline, she was a commercial sex worker at a brothel. Yet she was suffering from depression because she despised her clients and her job but their payment is her delight, as it saves her home.

This article seeks to address financially abuses in the home, which could in turn create emotional or psychological threat to the marriage. This a plea to both husbands and wives, to discuss their financial fears, joy, crisis and needs together, so they can both trust God and proffer solution as one force. The bible talks of one chasing a thousand and two chasing ten thousand. Jesus has saved the world, so you are not the savior of your marriage. You can only try. Financial round table conference is also needed in the home.

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REF: Movie: Jumping the broom, 2011 Romantic Comedy directed by Salim Akil, featuring Paula Patton, TD Jakes and much more

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