MARRIAGE: THE ACT OF CLEAVING
Its is another edition of Olabusola's Review and today's discourse centers on the essence of cleaving. I remain your loyal host, Olabusola Olorunnowo.
Getting Into Your Spouse: the act of cleaving
Its is another edition of Olabusola's Review and today's discourse centers on the essence of cleaving. I remain your loyal host, Olabusola Olorunnowo.
Marriage entails leaving to cleave on and on... The wedding ring has no end.
In Marriage, the home ought to be a place of comfort for the husband ,wife& family as a whole. You are rest assured that you have someone that will encourage you or make you feel better. In marriage we have the opportunity to develop the God kind of love,to live sacrificially. You train yourself in love as marriage is meant to be a training ground to be better persons and to form a cord that would build others.One of the hidden truth about the use of ring to join couples is due to the fact that the ring has no end. If you follow the circle of the ring, it keeps going round and round hence the reason the couple are admonished to stay in that circle despite external heat.
However, a lot of badges people go through today are as a result of the family. We are products of two people. The way they raise us and whatever we have be formed into is what we take into marriage. This can have a multiplying effect on our children and people around us.
Marriage also should reflect the idea of Christ love towards the church. Which is to present her as a whole,pleasing and in good condition. Emotional Separation is one common thing that happen to couples.
When you are married you are suppose to be into yourselves as against being into other people. It entails cleaving and maintaining the love...have you ever thought within yourself about the reasons you running away from your home... Ideally you are suppose to be running or desirous of returning home. In recent times there has been increase in numbers of bars, numbers of people who stay late at work, at meetings (church meetings inclusive) and at other gathering. In the first instance of marriage, this was not so. The great book says, "while men slept, the enemies planted weeds". The more you stay away because of a trivial issue the vacuum would increase and before long each one who seek for another succor.
It is advisable to resolve every misunderstanding before you go to bed. This would make you wake up to a better day. In the first place, why is she no longer your "Wow", or why is he no longer your "Wow". You may need to consider why you don't see her or him like you used to, Why don't you enjoy her company anymore . Same applies to women...where is that excitement you once felt...
Marriage entails leaving to cleave on and on... The wedding ring has no end.
In Marriage, the home ought to be a place of comfort for the husband ,wife& family as a whole. You are rest assured that you have someone that will encourage you or make you feel better. In marriage we have the opportunity to develop the God kind of love,to live sacrificially. You train yourself in love as marriage is meant to be a training ground to be better persons and to form a cord that would build others.One of the hidden truth about the use of ring to join couples is due to the fact that the ring has no end. If you follow the circle of the ring, it keeps going round and round hence the reason the couple are admonished to stay in that circle despite external heat.
However, a lot of badges people go through today are as a result of the family. We are products of two people. The way they raise us and whatever we have be formed into is what we take into marriage. This can have a multiplying effect on our children and people around us.
Marriage also should reflect the idea of Christ love towards the church. Which is to present her as a whole,pleasing and in good condition. Emotional Separation is one common thing that happen to couples.
It is advisable to resolve every misunderstanding before you go to bed. This would make you wake up to a better day. In the first place, why is she no longer your "Wow", or why is he no longer your "Wow". You may need to consider why you don't see her or him like you used to, Why don't you enjoy her company anymore . Same applies to women...where is that excitement you once felt...
Causes of Emotional Separation
**** Cleaving is a mental and continuous action.
**** Avoid Distraction: other people might seem to weight more to you more than your spouse. When you find handing out with your friends, chatting with your friends, ex, or colleagues more important than spe
**** Insensitivity...we sometimes hang around people who are either insensitive or distracted by people's opinion and control....what you call your wife is what she would be... Name her right and she would reflect what you call her.
**** Self-centeredness is also a reason for not cleaving... Love her like you can die for her.
****Are you out to use this person or love her. At times if care is not taken. You might be so engrossed in your responsibilities and career that you may be using your spouse unconsciously. This is one of the reasons we need to at often times check the motive behind our actions and how it affects the next person.
**** Are u willing to be an example of Christ in your marriage. Christ is a perfect example because he died for the church. However, this is not a call to die for your wife rather it is a call of empathy, respect, sacrifice and love.
**** Technology and the desire to know all going on in the world can be a major distraction. You should be able to put your device aside in other to have a sincere conversation with your spouse. Can you do one hour without your phone. A phone or electronic device-fast might be useful some time. We do not know what tomorrow holds so why not enjoy every moment you have with your spouse.
Some men are the reasons their wives to Television. When you don't give her attention then she would replace you with Several Television programmes. In recent times, the Z- World, Telemundo, African Magic and a host of other Soap Opera's have taken the place of communication in the home.
**** Your wedding ring can help reduce feminine distraction. Although this does not help in all cases, as there are some desperate single ladies and sometimes married women who feel, " After all we are even. You are married and am married, hence we do not seek commitment but mutual benefit". There are some of these women, you might need to report to God, especially if there is an attraction. Then you may need to take flee.
**** Get rid of superiority complex...you are not better than her, eve should have a mindset of companionship rather than subordinate and superior.
**** Believe you have the capacity to love her. If she seem difficult pray for her and look for how best to help her understand your desires. Enforcing instructions does not work with most women. Don't struggle to fix your marriage challenges on your own. Talk to God about everything. You can also seek for a trustworthy counselor.
**** Money is good but it can't solve everything. She won't hug money.
**** if your hubby is relocating both parties are to make strategic effort on bridging the distance hence the need for wives to follow. Don't allow distance to break your home.
**** Cleaving is a mental and continuous action.
**** Avoid Distraction: other people might seem to weight more to you more than your spouse. When you find handing out with your friends, chatting with your friends, ex, or colleagues more important than spe
**** Insensitivity...we sometimes hang around people who are either insensitive or distracted by people's opinion and control....what you call your wife is what she would be... Name her right and she would reflect what you call her.
**** Self-centeredness is also a reason for not cleaving... Love her like you can die for her.
****Are you out to use this person or love her. At times if care is not taken. You might be so engrossed in your responsibilities and career that you may be using your spouse unconsciously. This is one of the reasons we need to at often times check the motive behind our actions and how it affects the next person.
**** Are u willing to be an example of Christ in your marriage. Christ is a perfect example because he died for the church. However, this is not a call to die for your wife rather it is a call of empathy, respect, sacrifice and love.
**** Technology and the desire to know all going on in the world can be a major distraction. You should be able to put your device aside in other to have a sincere conversation with your spouse. Can you do one hour without your phone. A phone or electronic device-fast might be useful some time. We do not know what tomorrow holds so why not enjoy every moment you have with your spouse.
Some men are the reasons their wives to Television. When you don't give her attention then she would replace you with Several Television programmes. In recent times, the Z- World, Telemundo, African Magic and a host of other Soap Opera's have taken the place of communication in the home.
Some men are the reasons their wives to Television. When you don't give her attention then she would replace you with Several Television programmes. In recent times, the Z- World, Telemundo, African Magic and a host of other Soap Opera's have taken the place of communication in the home.
**** Your wedding ring can help reduce feminine distraction. Although this does not help in all cases, as there are some desperate single ladies and sometimes married women who feel, " After all we are even. You are married and am married, hence we do not seek commitment but mutual benefit". There are some of these women, you might need to report to God, especially if there is an attraction. Then you may need to take flee.
**** Get rid of superiority complex...you are not better than her, eve should have a mindset of companionship rather than subordinate and superior.
**** Believe you have the capacity to love her. If she seem difficult pray for her and look for how best to help her understand your desires. Enforcing instructions does not work with most women. Don't struggle to fix your marriage challenges on your own. Talk to God about everything. You can also seek for a trustworthy counselor.
**** Money is good but it can't solve everything. She won't hug money.
**** if your hubby is relocating both parties are to make strategic effort on bridging the distance hence the need for wives to follow. Don't allow distance to break your home.
Women
Eph5:22-33...talks about how a wife should submit to their husband as the husband is to love his wife. There is no height one cant attain with a humble heart. Humility is a necessity in every life. However, in building a home the place of humility can not be over emphasized. The unspoken truth in this verse is that, it does not attached condition to when the tool of humility should be applied. Which means it should be a lifestyle.
African men do not trivialize or joke with their respect for long. If they have allowed you get away with your tongue sometime, please be careful next time as the reaction might not be the same. Suffice to say that the place of humility and respect is a great aspect of cleaving.
As he attempts to Cleave wives don't discourage him. The bible advocate for cleaving. The woman is to leave. Which is symbolic in every respect. You are to leave your all. The more reason a woman is called by her husband's name and much more.
Wives are not to make it hard to relate sexually with their spouse. Each time you reject him you push him out to someone else...Even when you are tired don't rebel but make him understand how you feel.
**Let him feel safe with you. Don't gossip about him. Keep his secret safe. When he offends you and you discuss such with a friend, how would you go back to correct the impression you have given your friends about him.
* No matter the situation, do not make him feel small or irrelevant. If you do, your children would trample upon him as well.
*Make him feel pleased to have you around. Some husband feel more comfortable when their wives are upstairs and they are down stairs, or when she is asleep and they are awake etc. This only tells the impact of your presence.
* Space your children so you can have time For your life, your hubby and your marriage.
* Research into the best option of family planning that suit your body system so as not to endanger your life. There has been cases of sides effects.
* Your children would always need your attention but remember before you had them, your husband was your first baby. Hence ensure you are not using your children as an excuse to Cleave. Besides your children should not be sleeping in between you both, as that can cause a vacuum.
Weddings are always exciting events to attend because it is just a day or two event while marriage is a life time journey. You can attend many weddings with joy but you can not attend many marriages. You can only stay in one marriage. Do all you can to make your marriage the best.
Ref:
*Day Star: July series on Marriage& the family
In2her In2him : The Heart of Marriage.Gen 2:21-25
*Residual
Eph5:22-33...talks about how a wife should submit to their husband as the husband is to love his wife. There is no height one cant attain with a humble heart. Humility is a necessity in every life. However, in building a home the place of humility can not be over emphasized. The unspoken truth in this verse is that, it does not attached condition to when the tool of humility should be applied. Which means it should be a lifestyle.
African men do not trivialize or joke with their respect for long. If they have allowed you get away with your tongue sometime, please be careful next time as the reaction might not be the same. Suffice to say that the place of humility and respect is a great aspect of cleaving.
As he attempts to Cleave wives don't discourage him. The bible advocate for cleaving. The woman is to leave. Which is symbolic in every respect. You are to leave your all. The more reason a woman is called by her husband's name and much more.
Wives are not to make it hard to relate sexually with their spouse. Each time you reject him you push him out to someone else...Even when you are tired don't rebel but make him understand how you feel.
**Let him feel safe with you. Don't gossip about him. Keep his secret safe. When he offends you and you discuss such with a friend, how would you go back to correct the impression you have given your friends about him.
* No matter the situation, do not make him feel small or irrelevant. If you do, your children would trample upon him as well.
*Make him feel pleased to have you around. Some husband feel more comfortable when their wives are upstairs and they are down stairs, or when she is asleep and they are awake etc. This only tells the impact of your presence.
* Space your children so you can have time For your life, your hubby and your marriage.
* Research into the best option of family planning that suit your body system so as not to endanger your life. There has been cases of sides effects.
* Your children would always need your attention but remember before you had them, your husband was your first baby. Hence ensure you are not using your children as an excuse to Cleave. Besides your children should not be sleeping in between you both, as that can cause a vacuum.
Weddings are always exciting events to attend because it is just a day or two event while marriage is a life time journey. You can attend many weddings with joy but you can not attend many marriages. You can only stay in one marriage. Do all you can to make your marriage the best.
Ref:
*Day Star: July series on Marriage& the family
In2her In2him : The Heart of Marriage.Gen 2:21-25
*Residual
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