The Alone Time

The Alone Time

Yes there are times you may have to be alone. 

Just by yourself. Been alone is not a taboo or wrong. It is much better to be alone than be in a troubled relationship.

A time when you need to reevaluate his impact or her impact in your life. A time you need to check if indeed you are fulfill your purpose of creation. A time after a break up,  an argument, a time you just step out of the excitements of the relationship and do a check on yourself. Till your own soil by yourself.

After a break up please wait to heal. Wait with yourself to rejuvenate. Know& find yourself first before launching out getting attracted to another person. 3months is good enough if it has to take that long pt more. You need to be careful not to be a casualty or disaster to the new person. So please wait, enjoy your single-hood. I once met a guy who was really insisting on dating me while I was just getting out of one and trust me...he tried his best. At first he was dating himself. No Doctor discharges a sick patient except one with emergency record but they do this with the patient's file and with proper hand over.

Many a time we miss things up simply because we don't want to be alone. But we fail to realize that we came to the world alone. All this " I love you or I can do with out you" anthem does not hold water except you stand aloof one day and check whether this young man or that pretty young lady is worth been with.

This alone time help you plan your life, a time to refocus, a time to understand why you are in that business or relationship, a time to measure the influence of that relationship on your present and future.

Many a time we are carried away by the facade, by what the gentle man says, what he buys, how he treat us or how she responds to us, her look, her care and so on. All these factors often becloud us of proper reasoning until they either say "I don't think this will work anymore" or "I am not feeling this relationship"  By then your is heart broken. Within your lone time you can equally correct or check your excesses, why does your spouse or partner complain about this or that...

Your lone time is more valuable to you as it helps you build your inner strength, your courage and helps your eyes to see clearly. Some relationships are not adding any value to us yet we stick to it for reasons we create in our minds. Mind you, your design and template is different from your friends. There is room for overtaking so if your mates are dating, courting, marrying or giving birth it does not mean you must. You might not be purposed to marry at that age your friends are marrying. Some people are aging yet not maturing. 

It also help you connect with God... Your relationship with God determines your relationship with man. This why we should not trade our spiritual relationship for our physical relationship. We need to be conscious of the fact that the spiritual controls the physical hence whenever you see your relationship with God affected by the one you share with your friend, spouse or business partner, you may need to draw back in order to have a lone time.

There is a purpose for every relationship and an expiration time to each relationship you find yourself in. So please don't hold on to a failed, faulty or broken relationships. So many young people are just struggling to keep a relationship with their money, love , attentions, affectations and unsolicited and unappreciated services. You keep leaving your life, business& career hanging for his happiness...

You most likely are dating yourself. 

You will be shocked that when the tenure of the relationship ends he or she replaces you without thinking twice. Find yourself and refine yourself before it's too late.

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