How Much Of Him Do You Know

 It is yet another edition of Olabusola 's Review. Today I like us to have an insight into who we call " my boo, My love, my guy, my babe, my chic, my sweetheart, my pumpkin, my sugar pie and much more " . It is not strange to see or hear many young people call their lovers all sought of romantic names. 

A keen observer or admirer of such lover birds would be thrown into total dismay when such sights them haling insults at each other as few days, weeks, months or years roll by and you wonder if they never knew each other before or how much they know about each other. Indeed one can not totally know his or her partner before getting married. The process of knowing and discovering a man or a woman is a life time. This is because even in marriage couple still discover more facts about each other. Needless to say, this fact does not guarantee that one should go on and settle with an admirer whom you meet on face book or other social media platform, who calls you his or her boo. Substantial knowledge of the person is needed before you say I do., so as to help you guide your path. 

The need for more knowledge of your love can not be over emphasized, especially given the recent rate of divorce rate and heart break here and there. You might just need to know this gentle man or lady you call your boo or lover to a good extent. In those days, families of both parties will go to the villages or neighborhood of their proposed in-laws to find out about them. They verify the historical background of the family, their professions, their characters, possible diseases, work and much more. 

Unlike in recent time, when proper research is neglected in dating. For ladies in their late 20's and early 30's they just do not want that year to pass them by, so their ears is always itching for "Will You Marry Me". A lady meets an admirer in one day and the next month she wants to meet his Mum or parents. Yes it is good to meet his family but do not expect an immediate proposal. Take your time to test and try this young man. Some men already know all the lady wants to hear, so they say " you are just the kind of woman I love", Everything about you is perfect, You will make a good wife, My Mum needs to meet you, No man would be able to resist you" just to mention a few.

My question is always, how much of him or her do you know. There are some little things you might need to do to help you know if he or she is befitting enough.

• Go in company of a friend if possible and visit him: On some occasions you may need to give him or her a surprise visit. Visit to your of boo is important. I say this with every ounce of pain in me and this is because I have heard of instance where the guy uses a friends place to attend to his guest or girlfriends. Meanwhile he was already married at the time. So many "Christian Sisters" have fallen prey of this. They refuse house visit to avoid fornication. But I tell you fornication is not limited to the act neither is it limited to the house or bedroom. Who says sex can not take place anywhere. Well, for dignified married couple love making is often honourably attended to and not anywhere as it is commonly found today.
• Check and observe how he or she treats you in public and within closed doors.
• Check him/her out on social media follow him and view his friends
• Read the comments of his friends on his posts: Some gentle men are boo to you are baby to another, Vis- a Vis some ladies. They are sweety to you and Pumpkin to another. Some of the responses or comments on social media will tell you one or two things about them
• Pay a courtesy visit to them at work.
• Invite them to date sponsored by you as the lady 
• Read up on relationships to help you in relating better
• As a lady do not emulate the "me &my husband style" else, it will take you a longer time to know the truth about your man. You may need to see him through other people's lens. 
• Have an accountability personnel that you both can report to. 
• Seek God's face before saying yes to know God's mind for you.

When a man ask you out or propose to you, please take note of his words. Some will say things they never mean just to get you into bed. Well if we also view it from the young man's point of view, it will amaze you how low or dirty some ladies will go just to be called by a man's name. Hence, the young man will just tell you what you want to hear. He will ask you out like he is proposing and propose like he is asking you out. Some will not propose, they will only say let us see what God will do in this relationship. While some we say once I am done with my course, my training, this project or that deal but it will shock you that the deal or project, that they tie their decision to will never end. Mean while it is heart breaking to also see a guy telling you I love you and you respond with thank you. When the response to I love you is often thank you and I understand or You are welcome then there is a need for an evaluation of why the relationship is on. If you check well you will find out the lady's mind is else where. Probably she is not ready for such relationship.

The essence of evaluation in a relationship can not be over emphasized. Thank you for viewing