How To Say It Better

                                      How To Say It Better

 Many times, you will find it necessary to speak on a subject while most times, your silence might make a great difference. What you say at times is not as important, as how it is said. I have noticed that people who love talking, are often engrossed with the desire to explain everything to everyone. Unfortunately, we forget we do not have to say it all.

Tony Buon, a quintessential Leadership Coach, says "You need to train yourself to be comfortable with silence, particularly when dealing with cultures that respect silence more than we do in the West." The knowledge of who you are speaking to/with, is also crucial. You also may need to evaluate your speech to ascertain why you must say it. What we say and how we say it, can either mar our relationship or make it better. Richie Dayo Johnson a quintessential communication and behavioral Coach posits that, "When you open your mouth, you tell the world who you are."

Today's post is to encourage us to be more sensitive about what we say and be more conscious about how we say, what we say. I stumbled on the article below and I find it quite interesting.

"Sometimes you have to keep your mouth shut,
It's not because you don't have anything to say,
But because it's not the best moment to talk.
Sometimes you have to allow people to think negatively of you,
Not because you can't defend yourself but because no matter what you say or do,
It will never change their wrong opinion about you.
Sometimes you have to pretend you don't know something.
Not because you want to deceive anyone,
But because you want to learn from others..
Sometimes you have to let others win an argument,
Not because you cannot dispute their point,
But so that you can have peace".
Author Unknown

No one is a perfect communicator but we can be better once we are sensitive in our conversations. Ernest Agyemang Yeboah asserts: " I choose to choose few words each day. Yes! few words that count. Few words that can make impact. Few words that talk much. Few words that can make people ponder to wonder. Few words that are indelible. Few words that can leave distinctive footprints on minds. Though we may fail to mind our words, we shall never fail to mind the works of our words."

I encourage you to be more sensitive in your conversations; the choice of words you use, the impact of the words on the receiver and relevance of the conversation at that particular time is essential to be noted. Steven R Covey a great Communication analyst has linked, speaking, listening and responding with the act of understanding the message.

Suffix to say, if we wait to understand the message then it will reduce how much of what we say. "Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply." Stephen R. Covey. A qualitative communication is the bed rock of a great relationship.

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https://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/keywords/talk.html

https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/298301-most-people-do-not-listen-with-the-intent-to-understand